tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post7249263865105114222..comments2024-03-18T06:11:52.327-05:00Comments on The Common Denominator: A Mother's GriefMB Shawhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06385431609144174297noreply@blogger.comBlogger31125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-90291444823616291592013-04-03T19:14:27.155-05:002013-04-03T19:14:27.155-05:00Blessings to you Mary Beth for sharing your sorrow...Blessings to you Mary Beth for sharing your sorrow. And may your close friends always be there for you. A similar feeling continues through life when a family has a handicap child. He is like the 'ghost' in the room no one wants to talk about. Me, the Mother, never 'gets over it.' We all want our children to grow up and have a normal life. We want them to marry and have children of their own, and when life seems to be so unfair, it is a great sorrow. May you keep the sweet memories of your first son and of Michael. Only those who have been through these terrible tragedies can truly understand the grief of heart a mother and dad go through on a daily basis. Your description of the 'back and forth' roller coaster emotional ride a person experiences from such losses, puts it right into perspective. Thank you for sharing your hopes, your dreams and your losses. And when I gave birth to my Down's son,(21 years ago) people said 'Oh, Teresa can handle it.' Like I was some saint that could get through it...no...it's not like that at all...I survived...but I will never be the same again. Yes, some days you hide and then the next day you put on a big smile, but the pain is always there.<br />love and hugs,<br />Teresa in California<br />http://amagicalwhimsy.blogspot.com/<br /> A Magical Whimsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15473478545205572098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-19037405106221602622012-12-28T17:10:35.551-06:002012-12-28T17:10:35.551-06:00Mary Beth, I'm so terribly sorry for the loss ...Mary Beth, I'm so terribly sorry for the loss of your boy and John's. Thank you so much for sharing and for the sound advice on how to help those who have been placed in such dreadful positions.Marjie Kemperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14149783099059931587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-74026987505867648922012-12-27T00:31:29.879-06:002012-12-27T00:31:29.879-06:00beautiful postbeautiful postCatherine Witherellhttp://www.happydayart.typepad.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-43003827554222011762012-12-22T19:43:28.572-06:002012-12-22T19:43:28.572-06:00I'm so sorry. Big hugs. Thank you for sharin...I'm so sorry. Big hugs. Thank you for sharing so much.letterladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05133983590494020592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-89472929126519487852012-12-20T22:28:28.149-06:002012-12-20T22:28:28.149-06:00such good words of advice~i had a friend lose a ch...such good words of advice~i had a friend lose a child then more recently 2 aunts lost their sons. I learned from the first how to be a better friend/family member later-sometimes it just helps to have someone around.<br />so sorry for the losses you have had~maybe your words can help someone else know what to do~ donna joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06477398621641972642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-56507551567906940572012-12-19T11:16:31.935-06:002012-12-19T11:16:31.935-06:00xoxoxo. xoxoxo. Jane LaFaziohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09074665972666629110noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-89926700157381671892012-12-19T11:15:34.874-06:002012-12-19T11:15:34.874-06:00thank you for sharing, Mary Beth, all great advice...thank you for sharing, Mary Beth, all great advice shared from the heart of someone who has been there. xoxokecia deveneyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02670336375823545129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-77738960936282752302012-12-19T06:34:41.889-06:002012-12-19T06:34:41.889-06:00OH MB - you are brave and dear. That you are a pe...OH MB - you are brave and dear. That you are a person of such love and light in the world is a miracle - truly. xoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14101786587548137865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-52657955866246331332012-12-18T13:15:37.715-06:002012-12-18T13:15:37.715-06:00Thank you so much for sharing your story with us a...Thank you so much for sharing your story with us all - how brave of you and how true that we often feel unable to do anything for those who are suffering, not knowing "the right thing" to do - when the right thing is just doing something to show you care. RH Carpenterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05497161758269292809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-6451506435131641022012-12-18T10:42:32.646-06:002012-12-18T10:42:32.646-06:00Thank you so much Mary Beth for being brave enough...Thank you so much Mary Beth for being brave enough and loving enough to share your difficult story and help us all to be more aware. I have had lots of loss but never a child or friend who lost one, and grief does splay out and come up at the oddest moments and it is your true friends who share it all with you. Bless, hug, thanks. xoxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-55602021876451117232012-12-18T10:22:58.515-06:002012-12-18T10:22:58.515-06:00Thank you Mary Beth. Our son, Jeremy died in Augu...Thank you Mary Beth. Our son, Jeremy died in August 2009. He was 36 years old and an only child. He lead a full life and was loved by young and old. He lived on an Island and one night he climbed into his loft, fell asleep and didn't wake up. My heart was broken, but each day I find new ways to celebrate who he was and I work hard at making new memories. I love it when I get the opportunity to talk about him, share his life and his photographs. Our children will be in our hearts forever. You wrote with such grace, feeling, compassion and wisdom. Bless you.Art Escape Studiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03372794678507097372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-64980981266043872692012-12-18T08:49:57.664-06:002012-12-18T08:49:57.664-06:00Mary Beth, you are an incredibly brave, strong, an...Mary Beth, you are an incredibly brave, strong, and wise individual. I am so sorry for your losses. But I am grateful that you opened your heart to share your experiences and offer us insights to help us know what to do for people who grieve the death of a child. I truly admire you, too.Mary C. Nasserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05325747711832919670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-58326307700805947152012-12-18T07:41:33.865-06:002012-12-18T07:41:33.865-06:00I'm sitting here not knowing how to respond or...I'm sitting here not knowing how to respond or if I should, but thank you for opening your heart to us, Mary Beth. You are truly amazing; how blessed was your son and your step son to have you in their lives for any moment of their lives. God Bless all the little angels that have gone to heaven. I believe we are the ones that are truly left to suffer. Your lovely words help you each time and any others surrounded by the grief.Judy Sheahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12153808870700010204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-62372398875736775932012-12-17T23:45:37.618-06:002012-12-17T23:45:37.618-06:00Just goes to show that we never know what other pe...Just goes to show that we never know what other people are dealing with on a daily basis. My heart aches for you and admires you. Thank you for being brave. Thank you for sharing. This reminds me to extend grace to others. xojodihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10475423696199227068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-1642408569567067822012-12-17T17:24:43.636-06:002012-12-17T17:24:43.636-06:00What a wonderful way to help those of us who are s...What a wonderful way to help those of us who are so awkward when it comes to approaching those who have received bad health news, news of the death of loved ones, such tragic events. I am so sorry for the loss or your precious son and your stepson. You are a brave and loving person and I love and admire you. Carolyn AvelloneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-24612316743104439782012-12-17T16:15:57.307-06:002012-12-17T16:15:57.307-06:00May Peace be with you Mary Beth. What wonderful ad...May Peace be with you Mary Beth. What wonderful advise for those of us who did not know what to say or do.<br />Nancy ConnellyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-87730020065821368112012-12-17T16:08:29.785-06:002012-12-17T16:08:29.785-06:00Thank you for the gift of this post, shedding Ligh...Thank you for the gift of this post, shedding Light and loving wisdom on a very tough subject. You have blessed us all by sharing this tender part of YOU. kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09242887835937030404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-16823575405497113892012-12-17T15:35:22.736-06:002012-12-17T15:35:22.736-06:00MB... you are the best. Thanks for being brave eno...MB... you are the best. Thanks for being brave enough to share this with the world. I've heard you tell it before and I know what kind of strength and trust it takes to begin the story. Somewhere, somehow, I believe that Nathaniel is telling you to share this because he knows how much you love him and how this will help someone else. xoxoxoxoxoDebbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15144461315171901026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-79444426732991791642012-12-17T15:16:32.501-06:002012-12-17T15:16:32.501-06:00Thank you for this, for sharing your wisdom,, your...Thank you for this, for sharing your wisdom,, your grief, your strength. It felt eerie this morning when I arrived at my elementary school to await the arrival of all of my little students.Kathryn Zbrzeznyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13349204621261800313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-23654063687459383742012-12-17T14:10:54.375-06:002012-12-17T14:10:54.375-06:00MB - i want to hug you big right now. you are sup...MB - i want to hug you big right now. you are super deluxe for sharing, and living, and bringing such beauty to the world - the inside kind, and the art kind.<br />Linda Ehenrysmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10400167672848533389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-67976508263509355072012-12-17T14:05:04.375-06:002012-12-17T14:05:04.375-06:00Mary Beth, I know these 'life experiences'...Mary Beth, I know these 'life experiences' have to be hard to re-live but your words are so beautifully written and your ability to transfer your pain into words of wisdom for others is so much appreciated. I am grateful for your posting. I have a dear friend who recently lost her young son and I have been trying so hard to figure out if I am doing the right thing; saying the right thing; acting the right way, etc....and your words are helping me understand part of this puzzle. Thank you for your strength and for sharing this with us....it helps in so many ways!bevhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06342588893293584448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-29767720610085790122012-12-17T13:52:52.861-06:002012-12-17T13:52:52.861-06:00Wow. Just... wow! So much pain. Thank you for s...Wow. Just... wow! So much pain. Thank you for sharing your heart. We have all been blessed by your courage to tell. And we all learn how to better love those around us.Angiehttp://arttvisionz.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-85999175137945378192012-12-17T13:43:28.993-06:002012-12-17T13:43:28.993-06:00You are a brave and powerful life liver and lover,...You are a brave and powerful life liver and lover, MaryBeth. Thank you for sharing your story so generously with us so that we may help one another through loss with morr awareness.<br />Bright light and big love to you !Kim Mailhothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13849980369873306402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-61586559785067815152012-12-17T13:37:51.094-06:002012-12-17T13:37:51.094-06:00Your story is sad but uplifting, and your advice h...Your story is sad but uplifting, and your advice heartfelt and very sound. May you continue to move forward with love and peace in your heart.Jo Murrayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09025838373008865611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13711813.post-43294945617611084202012-12-17T13:29:52.081-06:002012-12-17T13:29:52.081-06:00I'm so sorry Mary Beth. You expressed it all ...I'm so sorry Mary Beth. You expressed it all so well. I lost a grandson 11 years ago and I agree with everything that you said. Big hugs to you!! Petiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08535603072306054438noreply@blogger.com